~AN AWARD~

''That Girl With Endo'', just gave me this sweet award! She has an incredible story to tell. One with alot of personal heartache, but also triumph! She is living a life many of us women live, but still it isn't talked about as as it should be! Thank You and I wish you all the Happiness,Good Luck and Fortune in the world (=
                                                                    GOD BLESS

I WANT TO SHARE THIS WITH::

 Green Monkey Tales, D.D. @ Dazee Dreamer ,Angie @ Like Shes Somebody, Shelia @ Opto mom and Grace @ Looks Good Naked! I don't have your address, but the above so will leave a message on your page! Take care and have a GREAT week/weekend!

Everyone of these fellow Bloggers have a Story to tell. They all are different with different life stories and experiences. I can visit their Blogs and experience all emotions, but no matter what is going on in their life they find a way to find humor in it! If not humor then ~peace~! If not peace then ~acceptance~...it all goes hand in hand! We don't have to agree on what everyone writes, but the fact that we can be open minded and accept one anothers flaws, sadness,rewards,illnesses,life experiences and HAPPY moments is what makes this forum and you special (=

The Bitter Truth

So, my friend and fellow Blogger Angie decided to walk again. Shall I say shes already walking and I'm going to start tomorrow. Shes the Ltl Athletic type and well.......I'm not ha ha  I have sworn my Loyalty to meet at 8:15 a.m. with coffee in hand. She tells me to ~Layer-up~ that's NEVER a good sign!

THAT WILL BE ME IN MY ~PEACE~ SNUGGIE @ 7:59AM!

As we were texting back and forth our early morning plans I had a Revelation! Well you see as we are discussing the ~Proper Clothing~ I decided I didn't walk in the Summer, because it was too hot! I didn't walk in the winter, because it was too cold! I had already eliminated 2 out of 4 seasons! I felt quite proud of my reasoning's!!

Truth is I ALWAYS say I cant wait till it gets warmer so we can REALLY SWEAT, you know make it worth our while and lose more calories. Then I say, I cant wait till it cools off so we wont sweat as much?! So what about the other 2 Seasons, what are my excuses? I don't have any and I'm actually trying to make them up as I type! So lets see Spring) that SHOULD be the perfect time to walk BUT IS IT......IS IT REALLY??!!  Isn't that when the allergies are so strong......Im almost positive the pot holes in the road are much worse then?! What about Autumn......hummmmm well I'm not getting anything! Maybe its damp, hurts the bones more, ummmm still left over pollen possibly! Help me out girls (=

There is NOTHING like a ~PERKY~ morning walker....good thing that's not us! We like to bitch, moan and groan. Sometimes we actually talk about good things too, cant all be bad or we REALLY would be too depressed to walk! I am grateful to this athletic friend of mine tho, she tends to make me feel bad about not taking better care of myself. Not on purpose, because she feels the same way! When its ~out-there~ you have NO choice, but to be aware of what your NOT doing! That's why I hate the Pre-Summer after Winter talks they always lead to what we are doing wrong! Smoke too much,cuss too much THEN its the ~we really really need to start walking again~ Its inevitable.

So as I set out on this 3-4 time yearly quest to get healthy, I'm still trying to think up an excuse as to why I cant crawl my big butt out of a warm and cozy bed in the morning! I blogged this because I know she will see it and text me or call and sound like my mom when I was a kid! Kinda one of those things, ''If your not dead or bleeding to death'' you SHOULD be here walking!!! I even thought of the idea....I don't have a hat....yea I liked that one! She says, ''I don't walk in a hat''! Well shit that blew that excuse ha ha

So, I just may post a picture of us walking in the morning in sub-zero temps....OK maybe not sub-zero, but it WILL be cold! She will be the skinny one in the picture, the one that doesn't look like she NEEDS to walk! You know shes walking strictly to get into BETTER shape and possibly because she enjoys it! Ha ha, I will be the other one! Since their is only 2 of us it shouldn't be hard to find me! I will look like the ltl boy in The Christmas Story! Oh and I will have a brace on my left knee.....would wear one on my right one, but figured it'd look to dramatic (although I REALLY do need one on it too ha ha)! I have issues.


Please say a prayer that a) I make it out of bed! b) I make it around the track at least once! c) I don't leave on a stretcher, but most of all d) that we can catch up on 4mths, because I really have missed talking to her pain and all (=

ITS NICE TO BE HOME...I THINK?!

I have lived out of a suit case for 3mths....literally! Whether at the Hospital or at an Apt. the Ark House set us up in! I'm sitting here looking at MY 4 walls not knowing how to feel? Should I be comforted in the fact that my husbands radiation is over and we have a mth break till he starts his chemo again? Should I be nervous that hes not feeling well tonight and we are 3hrs away? Should I embrace the fact that hes doing AMAZING or should I be freaking out at what the future will hold?!

WESLEYS SURPRISE BDAY PARTY 50YRS THIS WAS AFTER SURGERY BUT PRE TREATMENT! WE ALSO CELEBRATED MY SONS 20TH BECAUSE WE WOULD BE IN DALLAS!

If you've ever been told your spouse has an incurable disease, I assure all these feelings and more rush thru your mind! You dont sleep much, you smile and put on a front and you pray, you pray alot! You pray for all kinds of things, mercy,healing,a miracle,wisdom,strength for them,you and your children and thats just the top of the list!

No, this isnt a pity post , but more of the Diary I promised earlier. If I can help someone realize its ok to be sad,mad and any other emotion they are feeling then Ive helped. If  I can help them get intouch with resources that have helped us so far ......then I have helped!

We have used U.T. S.Western in Dallas and they have been absolutely awsum! Everyone said for him to go to MD Anderson(awsum too), but after the near death experience (I kid you not!) at a local Hospital, he felt comfortable where I had him transferred and it was where HE felt comfortable! BUT, I however have been so pleased, I just cant say enough! They are in with the Cancer Centers Of America now, they DO converse with MD Anderson,Duke etc. I highly suggest them if you are in need of a Center Center!

Yes, in past post I told you of the strange people I met standing on Harry Hines on my phone, But it was partly my fault.....I didn't realize hookers also walked Harry Hines lmao! I did not realize a mental hospital with ~self check in~ was across the street along with the Salvation Army! But, you know what THOSE people helped ME!! Their story's seemed hopeless at times and they had no one who would give them the time of day much less listen! I didn't mind really....well The Charles Mansion look alike ~up in my space~ kinda freaked me out, but he ment no harm! Just wanted an ear!

THIS IS THE ENTRANCE AT THE CANCER CENTER! A BLOWN GLASS SCULPTURE

The Ark House, is a Methodist funded non profit organization that helps people find housing if receiving treatment and live further than 50 miles away! Talking about a blessing! We had been staying at the Marriott,don't get me wrong it was heavenly compared to the Hospital chair Id been in, but even at a hospital discount it was 80$ aday!  Three mths of that, co-pays EVERYDAY (Don't get me started on the whole insurance saga....60$ aday co pays),we know the chemo meds are over 10,000$ a mth, because you have to sign if over 10grand and we are definitely having to sign )= etc etc etc, The Ark House was/is our Saving Angel!! We only had to pay 15$ a day BIG difference, now I realize why hospital bills sink people quickly. The Volunteers came by several times a week to see if we needed anything,paper goods, washing powder,food etc! They also called to check on us weekly! To me they were our Angels Of Mercy and I hope to be in the position to help in the same capacity in my area one day!

THE ARK HOUSE APT!

As my night is coming to an end I must up-date you on my hubbies progress. He has Anaplastic Astrocytoma stage 3-4 with sum 1-2. For his prognosis he shouldnt really be walking well or communicating with out a delayed thought. He should have problems with his left side due to tumor location...he has NONE! His surgeon Dr Beshay, was AMAZING and removed all his tumor with no problems! So, as you can see we have so many things to be grateful for! And yes my friends we are blessed everyday hes one of 4 beating the odds so far!

WALKING INTO HIS SURPRISE PARTY HAHA

For all you caregivers, you have the right to be tired....God knows I am! I at first thought how selfish that was and when people told me to take care of myself I thought are these people CRAZY?? This isn't about ME! They were however wiser than me.....I had to learn the hard way! My Fibromyalgia went into overdrive with all the stress and I wasn't keeping an eye on it! I'm feeling better, but you'd just have to understand the disease to understand the symptoms !

THIS IS MY OLDEST BEING THE DR....TOOO FUNNY! HIS NAME TAG SAID DR PHILGUD (=

Long story short ( well maybe not lol) he IS  doing good, Ill be OK and all I can hope for is a miracle healing!  Please keep the prayers coming! He still has a long road to travel, but at this rate he will be one of  the 4 patients she writes about!  Such a Blessing!!! Glass half full kinda mentality (=

.........AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST! MY HUBBIE AND I HIS LAST WK OF TREATMENT!!!

So, just wanted to catch up and share a few thoughts,stories and pictures! This story had just began and I pray I'm  blessed with many more years to tell it! Love to you all from my family to yours (=



                                                                 I BELIEVE IN MIRACLES

AWWWW THANX SHELIA AKA OPTO-MOM! NICE TO KNOW I HAVENT BEEN FORGOTTEN!! I WILL SEND OUT SOME AWARDS TOO AS SOON AS I CATCH UP! IVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND FOR 3MTHS IN DALLAS AND AM NOW HOME AND BACK TO BLOGGIN!!! IM BAAAACCCCKKKKKKK (=

~SECONDS~

There is a Sprint commercial that shows a split screen of two different scenarios. One is where just 1 second-one split decision to help someone or go right instead of left changed their life! In a way its a Pay it Forward kinda thing and or Karma.

Do you stop to help someone who has dropped something, open a door for someone, let a person go ahead of you in line, give someone directions?! You get the picture.......IF you hadn't stopped to do one of the above would you have met that special someone? Found a great deal? Met that best-friend? IF you walked on by and didn't help did you miss the opportunity to meet one of the above or meet a future boss or contact?!

I always wonder about that and I always try to be helpful, but I'm not perfect so a commercial of that nature makes me think! Did I miss that contact,  special person or conversation? I guess the older I get and the more life experiences I face the more I ~wonder~?!

As I said in my last post, I tend to have ''that face'' that people come up to for directions, money or just to talk! I don't think I look a certain way , but they must see something I don't.  Peoples stories fascinate me, their life and why they chose the roads they did! Maybe that's ~the look~ I have lol ....that I  need to understand the universe and what makes people tick ?! Maybe because I question the decisions Ive chosen in my life at times it tends to make me wonder ~what if~!

I also believe that's where faith comes in and we are not ment to know the ~what ifs!~ Only our God knows ~what if~ and we just have to accept that or we're suppose to with Blind Faith. Due to our life situation at the moment, I have alot of questions and most will never be answered ! I live with curiosity, but try to live without any regrets!

So, until the next post maybe we should all try to think about that ~next second~ and make the best of it....The Good ,The Bad,The Ugly AND The Unknown! Much love my Blogging Friends!

OLAHHHHHHHHHH

Yes, I'm back! I will be posting some pics this week on a ltl trip we took to the Coast to get away and re-group! We are going tomorrow to have Wesley's 1st appt with the Radiologist and Oncologist! After that I assume the treatments will begin!

I'm glad we got to get away for a bit and just be us two! The last time we did that our oldest was 2(hes23) and our youngest wasn't even a thought (almost20)! So, I do believe crisis mode or not it was MUCH needed AND  well-deserved lol

Miss my Blogging friends....miss all my friends...hasnt been much time for anything but Hospitals,Dr's appts and alota driving! Everyone please keep praying for a healing miracle for  my husband! Thank you so much and as this process continues I will continue with the updates and hopefully some funny stories too!

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I must have a sign on my head that says ~I WILL TALK TO ANYONE-GIVE YOU MY MONEY ETC!~ God love 'em! I had every homeless, pre-phyco-alcoholic lonely person come to me as I would go out side the hospital to make my calls! Now don't get my wrong, I have this unexplainable empathy for these people! I have worked in the field and so many are Vets that's aren't getting their benefits or are too far gone to know how, 1 missed pay check for many can lead you down that road and some are just troubled beyond repair! This I know, BUT some are what they are and able bodied!

#1) I hear a shuffling and out of the corner of my eye I see this man walking across the parking lot! I say ~Please God let this man walk on by today!~ but, noooooo he did not! I'm one of those people that if you are closer than my arm can swing around my body....you are too close! This man was Charles Manson twin_I kid you not! But, I also have a fascination with why people are the way they are etc....I believe people pick up on that too! He begins to ask me for a smoke and starts to tell me he needed a smoke beforee he walked across the street ~AND COMMITTED HIMSELF!~ Now of course this made me a TAD  bit leery!

I was even more stressed because he was in ~My Space~ that arm reach space I was talking about!!  He began to talk of his family as if I knew who 'Bob' his dad was-'Mary' his Aunt -'Bruce' his x-lover!! etc!! He went on this elaborate story of being ust to Limos, getting into private clubs because he was 'known', how his step mom(who I was suppose to know) screwed his dad outta all his inheritance and THEN he began to cry!!! OMG I thought .....what am I suppose to do with this poor soul? He explained how his gran maw died and he was the one who took care of her and no one told him she died till a  month later! That he needed his meds to deal with it....then he got angry!

AT this point I'm trying to listen, because I know that in EVERY crazy rant there is truth somewhere!! I'm also trying to look for security and an escape route!! I managed to change the subject THEN that one wound up going into his gay escapades with ~famous~ football players.......it was a lose lose situation!

You know he never asked for money only a smoke! I feel some people JUST wanna talk to ANYONE who will listen! I did listen and i politely excused myself after his second cig. by telling him I had to go check on my husband! I wished him well told him God Bless and walked away........but yet I still cant get this man outta my mind! Was he crazy, was he ~half~ crazy?! Was anything he said true or half truths?! Guess Ill never know....

#2) Don't worry only picking 2 today lol I'm sitting out on the Bus Stop( only because no other seating) in front of the Hospital making my calls. I again see an elderly man walking my way....I hate to say this but again was thinking the same as above! (MY HUSBAND JUST HAD BRAIN SURGERY AN WAS TRYING TO MAKE FAMILY CALLS) But once again God showed me! This was a man in his 70s or appearance wise is what he appeared. He sat down and ask me if I was waiting on the bus. I explained my situation briefly and he began to talk! As he asked if I cared if he drank his beer there he began to tell me how ""That hospital killed his brother ); "" Who knows if that was true all I know is its the leading one in Texas for Brain surgery! He began to tell me that he was a builder and many times he told me ~I'm not an idiot~ I know how to build and do things others don't! The more I spoke with him or let him talk I realized he was for the most part very intelligent! He began to explain how he had an idea to build these houses and all he needed was land to put them on to make a sub-division> That the sub walls could be made outta palates...which Ive since heard is being done! I asked him if he had children and he explained how he hadn't spoke to them in yrs ...sad to me!

As he went in and out of different subjects he began to speak of his parents and how they ~werent worth nuthin~ how if he wanted to eat as a child he had to catch his own food! That he was an expert fisherman.....I just sat there and listened with so many questions I didn't dare ask, but he also seemed like he ~just wanted to talk~ to someone...anyone!!! I excused myself when the bus came telling him I had to go back to my husbands room! I shook his hand and told him it was nice to meet him and that I wished him luck in the future. He asked me if I would be back soon.......I felt bad telling him no )= ! Again, I left wondering WHY....what happened to this man, he appeared homeless, but also intelligent! But also an alcoholic, so I may have answered my own question! Maybe the demon of alcohol was more important that his business, wife and kids?! Who knows....I never will!!

There are some sad stories, funny stories and some awsum people I met as I went outside daily and I will refer to them in future post! For now that's it! God Bless and I hope these two men find peace some where in their life!

ME, MY BOYS AND HUMOR

I am not one of those parents with a million rules, but there is one thing I insisted on: The first thing my kids should see when they wake up is a smile. For good measure after naps, I usually jump up and down when I walked into their room to show how excited I am to see them; this is clearly one of those things you can do in the privacy of your own home and those little eyes looking at you will think your awsum and not crazy! “Wakey Wakey hands off Snakey!!” — like a victory dance in an undeclared war against sleep.

Early on in this rollercoaster ride of raising kids,(mine are 20 and 23) it struck me that among the many, many, responsibilities of being a parent — turns out there’s more to it than napping — was my need to make sure that my children learned what’s funny! Even if it turns out that they just have to be a doctor or must be a lawyer, I want them to be the funniest ones they can be. Seriously: learning what’s funny — not just how to make people laugh, but how to view oneself with humor — I felt would help them grow into the wonderfully engaged human beings we hope they’ll become. Also, appreciating comedy seemed like a tangible skill I could teach them myself, between the lessons about not eating rocks or sticking things in electrical outlets.

I started thinking more seriously about the funny. How could I assemble the “rules” of comedy for them?? Early on I knew both my boys had a keen sense of humor along with timing........timing is key to being funny!


I started simply, with laughing lessons. Boy did they have laughs`! Every week my oldest had a different laugh. from Pee Wee Herman to Bart Simpson to Movie Stars and eventually family members and neighbors which had to be an inside joke as not to hurt peoples feelings!!

“Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha…


Hee, hee, hee, hee, hee…

Hi, hi, hi, hi, hi…

Ho, ho, ho, ho, ho…

Huuu, huuu, huuu, huuu, huuu.”

Now combine all those together some how and that was their specialty laugh!
 I have no scientific facts to back this up, but I firmly believe my boys discovered laughing earlier than most because of their enviroment Or, maybe it’s because we were often  in my jammies just being us. And I cant leave the hubbie doing their crazy stuff.they grabbed oh his his legs as he rushed in the door to be attatcked by 2ltl ones wanting hugs and a ride on the back or walk on the shoes etcccc


             Then we moved on to facial comedy. The bug-eyes. The cross-eyes.The double-take. Even a little spit-take just to show them that grown-ups do it too, and with the right comic timing, it isn’t just disgusting. After every bit, I’d laugh, to show them you can laugh at all ages and at most things.



I admit that I like looking silly and stupid in front of my kids (and in front of your kids too, if they’re around). I only hope that by doing this, and by assuming the heavy responsibility of being their comedy mentor, I’ve started Morrris Boys on the road to a more joyful life. I’m trying to cover all the bases. Shortly after they were born, I made faces and strange noises to get their attention and response!:



“I am thankful for laughter except when milk comes out of my nose.”

- Woody Allen



“I’ll teach you to laugh at what’s funny!”

- Homer Simpson


The key is being open to improvisation. It’s not a full-time funfest at our house, but I try to focus on the laughter rather than the tears,complaints or howls.



What comes next, I’m not sure, but I feel confident that at least my children will know that the proper response to “I don’t know” is “Third base.”


Now that that are grown, the first thing everyone says is how ~funny~ my boys are....the only down-fall is its hard to tell when the oldest is serious! I will tell you this their teachers will never forget them and their wise answers or speeches! The coaches had a hard time with their humor, because theyd always put a positive spin on a bad game and they HATED that lol They wanted everyone to be pissed when they were pissed haha it didnt work with mine and in the end I actually believe they softened some of those old goats up lol

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